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It’s my firm belief that even when it seems like everything’s going wrong in your life, there is always, always, always something that’s going right. The happiest people are the ones who practice gratitude and focus on loving life consistently (along with having goals and making progress towards them). You owe it to yourself to find out what that is and bring it into your awareness. It’s important to note that the more you focus on the good stuff, the more good stuff you find.

Too often we find more reasons to hate our life than to love it. Here is a list of reasons what you should love about your life right now. Whether you are already happy and just want to amp it up, or if you are having a bad day and need a reminder this list will increase your awareness.

1.       love your life for everything you already have

2.      love your life for what you are yet to receive

3.      love your life for all your certainties and uncertainties

4.      love your life for the friends you have and for the friends you will get

5.      love your life for the wonderful journeys you had

6.      love your life for all the opportunities that are waiting for you just around the corner

7.      love your life for all the good advice you followed and bad advice you didn’t follow

8.     love your life for your beautiful memories

9.      love your life for the ones you love

10.  love your life for your enemies, as they are there to give birth to you forgiveness

11.   love your life for all your victories

12.  love your life for all your lost battles, as they are your precious lessons

13.  love your life for tomorrow’s sunrise

14.  love your life for yesterday sunset

15.   love your life because it gets better as you go

When life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, show life that you have a thousand reasons to smile. There are a million reasons out there to love your life. Let me know why you love your life.

Always,

Teryn

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“Begin at once to live and count each separate day as a separate life.” ~Seneca At times, it’s seemed as though life contains an endless supply of days. When I was younger, I thought this for sure. It didn’t matter how long I held a grudge, or how long I waited to do something I wanted—there would be an unlimited pool of other opportunities. At least that’s what I thought back then.

Maybe it’s a rite of passage from childhood to adulthood: the moment when you realize life happens now, and that’s all you’re guaranteed. It doesn’t really hit you when you merely know it intellectually, like you know you’re ABCs, state capitals, and other concrete facts. It hits you when somehow you feel it. Your health declines. You lose someone you love. A tragedy rocks your world. It isn’t until you realize that all life fades that you consider now a commodity and a scarce one at that.

But maybe that’s irrelevant. Maybe living a meaningful, passionate life has nothing to do with its length and everything to do with its width. With this in mind, I’ve created a list to ensure I live life to the fullest.

1. Live in the moment. Forget the past and don’t concern yourself with the future. (Tanner Christensen)

2. Fully embrace the now, no matter what the situation. (Patrick Flynn)

3. Do the things you love. (Diego Felipe Villa Serna)

4. Learn to forgive and embrace unconditional love. (Ann Glasgow)

5. Live every day as if it’s your last, embracing each experience as if it’s your first. (Jennifer Fertado)

6. Believe in “live and let live.” (Satyendra Pandey)

7. Use quiet reflection, honesty, and laughter. (Erin Rogers Kronman)

8. Be other-centered. (Tricia Mc)

9. Find calm in making art. (Z.r. Hill)

10. Focus on today and how you can do your best to live it to the fullest.  (Amelia Krump)

11. Participate in life instead of just watching it pass you by. (Lindsey Wonderson)

12. Stay healthy, eat right and most importantly, be kind to all. (Tho Nguyen)

13. Pray, forgive yourself, appreciate others, listen to your gut, do things you enjoy, and remind yourself that we are all loved and connected. (Sandra Lumb)

14. Don’t sweat the small stuff. (Allison Gillam)

15. Question everything, keep it simple, and help whenever and however you can. (Lynda Corrigan Sutherland)

16. Try to enjoy every minute of every day. (Maria Ahlin)

17. Step through new doors. The majority of the time there’s something fantastic on the other side. (Terri Mindock)

18. Remember that all is a gift, but the most precious of all gifts is life and love. (Debbie Teeuwen)

19. Keep your spirit free, be flexible, let go. (Leslie Brown)

20. Follow your hopes and not your fears. (Jody Bower)

How did you live life to the fullest today?

Always,

Teryn

 “If you’re in a bad situation, don’t worry it’ll change. If you’re in a good situation, don’t worry it’ll change”- John Simone. Some days go well. Other days can feel lackluster. Some days may start out pretty good but turn bad. “To affect the quality of the day, that is the highest of arts”- Henry Thoreau.

What can you do when you are having a bad day? Like others, I like to ask myself a few helpful questions. These questions help me to regain a more optimistic and constructive perspective when I feel like doing nothing, dwelling on a problem or when I am in a bad mood.

Sometimes they help me to switch my perspective quickly. Sometimes they at least help me to see a bit of sunlight at the horizon and slowly I make a transition from having bad day into something a bit better.

1. Am I making a mountain out of a molehill right now?

It’s very easy to fall into the habit of making mountains out of molehills. You think and think about a small problem until it becomes something that you believe may ruin your life.

To snap myself out such a thought pattern I like to question and reevaluate by using this question. It makes life lighter because few things are real mountains. Most issues tend to be molehills exaggerated by overthinking, listening too much to other people’s pessimism or not asking yourself helpful questions.

2. Does anyone on the planet have it worse than me right now?

I like to use this one when I am stuck on focusing on the negatives, when I feel like a victim and like things are going against me.

The answer helps me to remember and understand that I have much to be grateful for in my life.

This question changes my perspective from a narrow, self-centred one into a much wider one. It helps me to lighten up about my situation.

3. What can I learn from this situation and is there an opportunity here to grow in some way?

Whenever I am having a setback with my blog or am having a bad day in another area of my life I pause. I then ask myself this question.

And in almost all cases I can learn something new and/or change the direction in my actions so that I or some part of my life becomes better. Many times the bad days have in retrospect turned out to be blessings in disguises because they have been points when I have changes things in some way and made my life better.

So, when I wind up in a negative situation nowadays there is also often some curiosity and optimism that bubbles up within me.

4. What is one small step I can take right now to get ball rolling and to start turning this situation around?

Instead of spending too much time on dwelling on the problem or negative feelings see what you can do about the situation right now. By just getting the ball rolling in some small way by taking an action right now or today I usually feel relieved and a whole lot better.

I feel good about myself and I feel good about being on a path towards a solution or towards improving my day.

5. Can I just accept that this is how I feel right now?

Some issues you may not be able to take action on today to start resolving. But that doesn’t mean that you cannot feel better about what is happening. I can often feel better in these difficult situations by asking the question above and by fully accepting that this is how I feel right now.

I have found that in many cases it is actually better to just accept that the negative feelings and thoughts are here right now (although it can be hard to sometimes convince your brain that this is a good option as it wants to deny or reject what is).

By accepting that you feel this way and that these thoughts are floating in your mind you stop feeding more energy into them and you stop making them strong. After a few minutes of fully taking in this uncomfortable feeling and thoughts and accepting that they are here then they start to lose steam. They just seem to float away and you once again feel more open and are able to think more clearly.

If you found this article helpful, then please share it and leave me a comment.

Always,

Teryn

Happiness is found in the choices we make every day. It’s all about thinking good thoughts, speaking kind words, taking good actions, and enjoying the small things in life all while chasing after the big ones. Here are few reminders to help you find happiness every day:

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When all your desires are distilled You will cast just two votes: To love more, And be happy! Please let me know your thoughts by commenting below.

Always,

Teryn

This poem gave me goose bumps and I thought all of you would enjoy reading it. It is by an unknown author, but has an emotional meaning. It’s important to learn to appreciate what you have, before time makes you appreciate what you had. Always have faith in life. Faith is believing in something when common sense tells you not to. Faith is daring the soul to go further than the eyes can see and this poem defiantly goes further than the eyes can see….

A drunken man in a Oldsmobile they said had run the light that caused the six-car pileup on 109 that night. When broken bodies lay about and blood was everywhere, the sirens screamed out eulogies, for death was in the air. A mother, trapped inside her car, was heard above the noise; her plaintive plea near split the air: Oh, God, please spare my boys!” She fought to lose her pinned hands; she struggled to get free, but mangled metal held her fast in grim captivity.

Her frightened eyes then focused on where the back seat once had been, but all she saw was broken glass and two children’s seats crushed in. Her twins were nowhere to be seen; she did not hear them cry, and then she prayed they’d been thrown free, “Oh, God, don’t let them die!” Then firemen came and cut her loose, but when they searched the back, they found therein no little boys, but the seat belts were intact. They thought the woman had gone mad and was travelling alone, but when they turned to question her, they discovered she was gone.

Policemen saw her running wild and screaming above the noise in beseeching supplication,
“Please help me find my boys!” They’re four years old and wear blue shirts; their jeans are blue to match. One cop spoke up, “They’re in my car, and they don’t have a scratch.”

They said their daddy put them there and gave them each a cone, then told them both to wait for Mom to come and take them home.

“I’ve searched the area high and low, but I can’t find their dad. He must have fled the scene, I guess, and that is very bad.”

The mother hugged the twins and said, while wiping at a tear, “he could not flee the scene, you see, for he’s been dead a year.”

The cop just looked confused and asked, “now, how can that be true?” The boys said, “Mommy, Daddy came and left a kiss for you.” “He told us not to worry and that you would be all right, and then he put us in this car with the pretty, flashing light.” “We wanted him to stay with us, because we miss him so, but Mommy, he just hugged us tight and said he had to go. He said someday we’d understand and told us not to fuss, and he said to tell you, Mommy, he’s watching over us.”

The mother knew without a doubt. That what they spoke was true, for she recalled their dad’s last words, “I will watch over you.”

The firemen’s notes could not explain the twisted, mangled car, and how the three of them escaped without a single scar. But on the cop’s report was scribed, in print so very fine, an angel walked the beat tonight
on Hwy. 109.

Let me know how faith has impacted your own life.

Always,

Teryn

Yes, you can! Never give up believing in yourself. Whenever you doubt yourself, rememberThe difference between a successful person and others is not a lack of strength, not a lack of knowledge, but rather a lack of will” -Vince Lombardi. Nothing in the world can take the place of persistence. Yes, talent will help. However talent will not provide everything you need to be successful; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Yes, being smart helps. However, genius will not help you conquer all; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Yes, being educated will help but it will not provide the answer to everything; the world is full of educated derelicts.

The key to success is persistence and determination alone are omnipotent. One of the commonest mistakes and one of the costliest is thinking that success is due to some genius, some magic – something or other which we do not possess. Success is generally due to holding on, and failure to letting go. You decide to learn a language, study music, take a course of reading, train yourself physically. Will it be success or failure? It depends upon how much pluck and perseverance that word “decide” contains. The decision that nothing can overrule, the grip that nothing can detach will bring success. Remember the Chinese proverb, “With time and patience, the mulberry leaf becomes satin.” Every one of us can make a big difference if we only choose to believe in ourselves and never give up. Please help to spread some inspiration so that both individually and collectively we might more fully live up to our potential.

Always,

Teryn

“Let go. Why do you cling to pain? There is nothing you can do about the wrongs of yesterday. It is not yours to judge. Why hold on to the very thing which keeps you from hope and love?”- Leo Buscaglia. It’s always a good thing to let go of the past in order to make room for the furture.Here are some tips to letting go of the past.

  1. Write, talk, draw, paint, or otherwise tap into your thoughts and memories. Letting go of your past means honoring your memories.
  2. Let go of the emotions and feelings of painful memories by letting them wash over you – you’ll feel horrible during, but relieved and peaceful afterwards. Let go of your past by reliving it.
  3. Go back and talk to the people involved, if possible. Letting go of your past can mean going back.
  4. Share your real feelings; confess if it’s appropriate. Letting go of your past means expressing your emotions. If you have to deal with your mistakes, then own up to your shame or guilt.
  5. Apologize and ask forgiveness if you need to. Letting go of your past means being vulnerable.

Without awareness, it is possible to live according to the doomed conclusions you have made as a result of past experiences. Because you have made a mistake or failed, you predict that you will never succeed. Or just because someone has wronged you, you find it hard to forgive. Your mind becomes stuck in the same mental movie it has been repeatedly playing. On and on, your tape would run. Please let me know how you let go of your past problems.

Always,

Teryn

What makes someone beautiful depends on your definition of beautiful. Dictionary.com defines beautiful as “having qualities that give great pleasure or satisfaction to see, hear, think about, etc.; delighting the senses or mind.” For me beauty is much more than skin deep. In fact what makes a person truly beautiful to me is what is not so evident on the first look. I believe a variety of variables makes an individual beautiful.

1. Smile. I consider anyone that smiles at a complete stranger beautiful. A happy person is far more beautiful than an individual who is attractive, but cold. Everyone’s always beautiful with a smile on their face

2. Self-confidence. Confidence and the way a person carries themselves always makes a person more attractive. Confident people also usually tend to more pleasant toward others. The most unattractive person can be beautiful if they have self-confidence and have a beautiful personality. Having self-confidence automatically makes you more desirable. Self-confidence allows you to be happy with who you are.

3. Kindness. One of the most common responses to kindness is gratitude. People appreciate what we’ve done for them. Our kindness is very attractive, so they want to be around us and actually seek us out. The Buddha lists this as one of the eleven impacts of loving kindness, but he put it even more strongly, saying: “Loving kindness will make people love you.”

4. Compassion. When we look for kind deeds, beauty, and the opportunity for kindness, we’ll find that we are more compassionate and more tolerant. As we practice empathy, it opens our heart to others.

5. Love. My boyfriend once said, “I do not love you because you are beautiful; You are beautiful because I love you!”

6. Ability to Laugh at oneself. Having the ability to laugh at yourself makes you beautiful. Blessed are those who can laugh at themselves, for they shall never cease to be amused.

Let me know what you think makes someone beautiful.

Always,

Teryn

 

Learn to appreciate what you have, before time makes you appreciate what you had. Whether we choose to see it or not, our life is too short to worry about small things. Though some circumstances in our lives at the moment may seem fairly significant, we must realize that the things that are really important are the things that are going to matter in ten to twenty years, or twenty to fifty years. Life is too short to sweat the small stuff.

We have to choose to live our lives in the present and for the future, instead of trying to live in the past. We must also live our lives doing the things and for the people that we are passionate about. Living a life without passion and without hope for the future is not really living your life at all. Remember that the next minute, hour, and day are not promised to you, and may be taken from you at any time. Never let anything or any person stop you from pursuing the things that you are truly passionate about pursuing. My life is only great because I love being free and not caring what people think of me; it’s crazy but I love saying oh well life goes on. People change, things go wrong, and all you can do is remember that life goes on.

Please let me know how you overcome challenges and how your life goes on!

Always,

Teryn

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