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Maria Robinson -“Nobody can go back and start from the beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.” There are a few things that people always do, but should stop doing. Here is a list of things you should stop doing to yourself.

1. Stop hanging out with the wrong people. Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you.  If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you.  You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot.

2. Stop running from your problems. It’s important to face your problems head on.  We aren’t supposed to be able to instantly solve problems.  In fact, we’re made to get upset, sad, hurt, stumble and fall.  Because that’s the whole purpose of living – to face problems, learn, adapt, and solve them over the course of time.  This is what ultimately molds us into the person we become.

3.Stop trying to please everyone. The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too.

4. Stop letting people bring you down. Don’t let anyone tell you that you’re not good enough. Refuse to lower your standards to accommodate those who refuse to raise theirs.

5. Stop overlooking the beauty of life. It’s important to live everyday life it’s your last. You only live once, but if you do it right, once is more than enough.

Please let me know what you think and if you have anymore suggestions for people to stop doing.




There are people out there that believe they don’t have what it takes to make a difference. The trurth is everyone can make a difference in someone else’s life. Everyone can contribute and make a difference to the world in our own unique way.

The following points are ways to make a difference in the world.

  1. Any amount for effort will be better than nothing. “If you can’t feed a hundred people, then feed just one.” – Mother Teresa The size of the contribution isn’t what matters; it’s the fact that you gave it your best effort.
  2. Don’t put off until tomorrow what you can do today. There is no right time to start to make a difference. “How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world.” – Anne Frank
  3. To receive, you must first give. Two of the easiest gifts you can give someone are love and compassion. It is important to remember the little things in life. Going out of your way to help a stranger in need shows more about a person than 1,000 words about how you are a good person. You can change the world by helping one person at a time.
  4. Empower others to help. Instead of criticism, send praise and encouragement. By praising and encouraging someone, you’ve help them accomplish their own goals while accomplishing yours (making a difference in the world). “The greatest good you can do for another is not just to share your riches but to reveal to him his own.” – Benjamin Disraeli
  5. Lead the way. A good example has twice the value of good advice. Show someone an example about how you’ve changed the world and they will soon follow your example.

Do you have other suggestions on how we can make a difference to the world? Please leave me a comment and tell me what you think.

Your Friend,


“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection.”
– Buddha.  Through my struggles in life, I’ve learned to love myself.  I think loving yourself is the most important thing you can do. Here are seven ways to accept yourself for who you are.

  1. Identify and focus on your most positive qualities and skills. It is important to identify and focus on your positive qualities, rather than concentrating on the qualities you feel worst about. By maintaining your positive qualities you can utilize them and achieve goals. Every goal you attain you will feel more self-esteem and love yourself that much more.
  2. Prevent negative thinking. Push aside those negative thoughts about yourself and learn to replace negative thoughts with positive ones. This is where you can learn to be truly happy with yourself.
  3.  There is no such thing as perfect. Everyone has imperfections. Instead of dwelling on the little things you don’t like about yourself, accept them for what they are.
  4. Compliment yourself. Look for something you like about yourself that day and make it routine to tell yourself that something looks good. Once you have this new found self confidence, you will be able to walk into any room and act like you own the place.
  5. Be yourself. It’s important to disregard what others think about you. If you love yourself, no one elses opinion matters. “It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.” ~e.e. Cummings
  6. Don’t worry about the little things in life. People who run around like their hair is on fire the whole day will never be able to calm down and realize life is passing them by.
  7. Do your best in everyday life struggles and be proud of yourself for your efforts. “Be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind. Talk health, happiness, and prosperity to every person you meet. Make all your friends feel there is something in them. Look at the sunny side of everything. Think only of the best, work only for the best, and expect only the best. Be as enthusiastic about the success of others as you are about your won. Forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future. Give everyone a smile. Spend so much time improving yourself that you have no time left to criticize others. Be too big for worry and too noble for anger.”–Christian D. Larsen

All I ask is don’t forget to love yourself.

Please leave me a comment and tell me what you think.

Your Friend,



Ralph Ellison~ “All my life I had been looking for something and everywhere I turned someone tried to tell me what it was.  I accepted their answers too, though they were often in contradiction and even self-contradictory.  I was naïve.  I was looking for myself and asking everyone except myself questions which I, and only I, could answer.  It took me a long time and much painful boomeranging of my expectations to achieve a realization everyone else appears to have been born with:  that I am nobody but myself.”

Similar to Mr. Ralph Ellison, I’ve been waiting to be found; not by anyone in particular but myself. I’ve been waiting for answers. Hoping they would fall into my lap. Wishing for particular answers, yet nothing comes my way. I finally realized that answers will never fall into my lap; I’m going to have to go find the answers I’m looking for.

I realized that the answers I was searching for were already found.  In actuality I didn’t need to search for them. They’ve been inside of me the whole time.  I was trying to please everyone around me; being someone I’m not was not the answer I was looking for. I finally came to the realization that I don’t need to please anyone but myself. I found myself and being myself is the best answer I could have ever gotten. “He who trims himself to suit everyone will soon whittle himself away.” ~Raymond Hull

Let me know what you think.

Until next time,


What is the definition of normal?  Who is considered normal? Am I normal? I ask myself these three questions on a regular basis. defines normal as “conforming to the standard or the common type; usual; not abnormal; regular; natural.”

Does anyone meet the description of “normal”? I believe the answer to that is NO. Everyone is different in their own way; everyone has something that sets them apart from the rest. This is something I see as a positive. Whether it is your style, your personality, your intelligence, or your free spirit attitude that sets you apart from others everyone is different or abnormal. Some people may think that being different is a bad thing, when in actuality it makes others notice you. After all if you aren’t remembered your forgotten. I would much rather be thought as being different than forgotten from the world I live in.

Who strives to be just average? I want to be extraordinary not ordinary. I want to do my very best with every challenge I face in my life. I believe that settling for average is worse than trying and failing. I try to exert as much energy and effort as I can to ensure I do not fall short or come up average.

You need to give yourself permission to do whatever it is you want to do whether it will be considered normal or not. After all I am certainly not normal; but who is? I honestly have to say that being normal is not on the top of my to-do list.

Please leave me a comment and let me know what you think!

Until next time,


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